Monday, March 26, 2012

I want to know where you stand on the whole “staying friends with your ex” thing

For me, personally, I think there’s nothing right with being friends after break up. If two people have parted in good terms, what’s to keep them from being friends, right? I mean after all, they do have history, they’ve become lovers and even though that didn’t work out, they still like each other’s company and that’s definitely no reason enough to stay as friends.For bitter breakups or relationships that have ended badly, it’s a lot more difficult.
Usually, people refuse to stay friends with their ex because they’ve been hurt. It may be because they didn’t want the relationship to end in the first place, but unfortunately it has… and they’re just learning to deal with it. As much as possible, they would want to avoid their ex and not be reminded of what used to be, in order for them to really move on. Or maybe, the relationship just ended with both parties hating each other, thus, there’s no possibility for continuing friendship.
It’s also difficult to remain friends when you’re still in love with your ex. I mean, how can you be contented with just being “friends”, right? Every time you see that person, there will always be that longing… deep inside you’re hoping that you’re back together again. So instead of going through even more hurt, you opt not to see that person again, so you could truly move on with your life and find someone new.
There are lots of reasons why people don’t want to be friends with their ex. But in reality, there ARE in fact ex-lovers that end up being friends even right after their breakup. In my opinion, these are fake. First of all,its difficult for a man and woman to be good friends plus ex-lovers,no way.
I think if I have to answer this question myself, I would say, “NO”.
An ex-boyfriend/girlfriend should be a fling forgotten forever.Otherwise its an insult for the partner with whom you are now.Youmay not be attracted to your ex but then there is no point meddling with past,things which ended are better to be left behind,otherwise it hurts.

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